Thursday, March 20, 2014

"I'M NOT AN AFRICAN AMERICAN, I'M BLACK" (PART 2)

    Reasons why Africans feel like that can't get along with Blacks

    An African's point of view: One, Africans see the media reports on Black people getting in trouble with the law, refusing to get a job, not taking care of their kids, having attitudes, etc., and form conclusions on how the majority of black people are. They see Black people as lazy and often wonder why they don't take advantage of the education and opportunities this country has to offer. Two, most of the time, when an Africa person immigrates to the U.S. he/she is most likely made fun of immediately by a Black person. Some Black people also make fun of each other and this another after effect of slavery believe it or not. (I'll discuss that later). Africans often do not feel welcomed by their distant family members (Blacks) when they come to America.

    Another reason is that Africans aren't educated on what blacks went through in America. Unless they live in South Africa, they are most likely exposed to racism. Maybe colorism, but not racism. It is not apart of the curriculum in African schools to learn about Black history, and why should they if it doesn't affect them? They learn about what's going on in their own country. Ironic how the system is set up so that we don't even get to properly learn about each other and much we are actually alike isn't it?

    Instead of thinking of each other as "Blacks" and "Africans", why not think of each other as distant relatives. A quote by Maya Angelou says, "If you will have a person enslaved, the first thing you must do is convince yourself that the person is subhuman. The second thing you have to do is convince your allies so you'll have some help, and the third and probably unkindest cut of all is to convince that person that he or she is subhuman and deserves it." This is why happened to blacks when they were separated from their African relatives, only to be reunited years centuries later and not even be able to recognize each other. Just remember we all have the same blood running through our veins. That's what unites us.

Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/m/mayaangelo
Please read these collection of tweets by @Luvvie on her website www.awesomelyluvvie.com. She describes the situation from her point of view as a Nigerian.

"I'M NOT AN AFRICAN AMERICAN, I'M BLACK" (PART 1)

    Hello everyone, I apologize for the long hiatus, school work has been occupying much of my time. I decided to do this blog post on the relationship between Blacks and Africans. I have noticed how rocky this relationship is, and I was interested in doing more research on it. So why is the relationship between Blacks and Africans so turbulent? I have come up with a few reasons based on the research that I did.

    A black person's point of view: One, we tend to group everyone that it from the continent of Africa altogether. We forget that their are many different countries that make up the actual continent. That's like grouping every state apart of America together and saying all Americans are country hillbillies. That wouldn't make sense to the people who live in the suburbs and the city. Two, we see the "feed the children" commercials from Africa at 3 o'clock in the morning and video footage of women and children starving and we begin to believe that the entire continent of Africa is poor and in need of help. Not once does it come to mind that actual kings reside on the same land. Three, even in school, we view people from Africa as "wild animals" who live with actual animals in their backyard. Isn't it ironic how we are taught to believe Africans are wild and untamed just like the Europeans thought when they arrived there?  Also in school, the way they taught us about the history of Egypt, it was almost as if they were purposely teaching it in a way that did not make it apart of Africa. At least that's how I viewed it. They never told us that much of the ideas of the Greek and Roman empires were from Africa, or that Cleopatra actually had some color. (That's going off topic so we'll save it for another day, but trust, we will talk about it).

    A lot of times Black people make fun of Africans for the way they dress, and the accent they speak with. Is it the result of a deep rooted jealousy towards them because they have a culture and we don't? Think about it, we as black people don't have much of a culture or anything to unite us. It is nearly impossible to trace our family line directly back to Africa, and we don't have a country to go back to. We came from Africa about 400 years ago, so any kind of customs, languages, or culture we brought with us is gone. This is why Black people do not like to be referred to as African-american. We don't know much about the culture.

    Another reason the relationship between Blacks and Africans is so tumultuous is because, we don't feel like Africans can relate to the struggles we went through for about 400 years. Slavery is over, but we are still feeling the after effects and continuing to fall victim to mental slavery (I'll save that for another blog post). We are essentially suffering from PTSD. Many countries in Africa, except the ones in South Africa, have not gone through racism because they are the majority and the default. To add to this, Blacks may also feel resentment towards Africans because of being sold into slavery by their own people in the first place. Remember, some were kidnapped, and some were sold into slavery. Stay tuned for part 2.    

Friday, January 17, 2014

THE POWER OF A THOUGHT

        I wanted to start off the new year with something positive, so I'm going to talk about the power of thoughts, and how they influence your life. I will continue to do blog posts on colorism topics this year, as well as posts that are meant to teach, help, and uplift others. I hope everyone is having a great new year!

        I don't think that many people stop to think about how powerful a single thought can be. A single thought can manifest itself into hypotheses and theories, or even physical objects. What I mean by physical objects is that, every invention started with a thought. How you think translates into what you say, and how you act. This is why I always say, "Watch your thoughts". Your thoughts, whether positive or negative cam also have an effect on your emotional health. Please watch this sermon that Bishop T.D. Jakes did on the power of your thoughts.

Make it a point to watch your thoughts this year, and don't let anyone influence the way you think. Have a good new year.

Friday, November 29, 2013

NOTHING JUST HAPPENS

        Sometimes things in our life happen that unfortunately leave us feeling confused, heartbroken, empty, irritated, and angry with GOD. Sometimes, out of nowhere, all hell breaks lose, and we are left hurt and confused. We begin to question GOD, and his true purpose for us. Why me? Why now? If this sounds like you, keep reading.
        

         I was watching a Bishop T.D. Jakes sermon, and he discussed how nothing is ever a coincidence, and how everything happens for a reason. He also explained how pain is a strange thing. It can bring the two most unlikely people together. It doesn't discriminate against race, color, sex etc. We feel a certain connection with people who can begin to understand the pain that we feel. We can relate to what they're going through. GOD can do more through our failures than our successes. He talked about how you have to chose who you fellowship with. If you haven't experienced the pain of loss, death, or misfortune, they can't relate to you. We feel the need to reason with our pain, because if it makes sense, we feel okay about not going through it for nothing. Please watch the video below. Even if you can't watch the whole thing, just listen to the first few minutes. You need to know that NOTHING JUST HAPPENS, EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON!!!






Thursday, October 10, 2013

What is the Downfall of a Black Woman? (Part 2)

        The first crab exhibited signs of jealousy. She was jealous and envious of the other crab because of what she felt she lacked, so she began to criticize. Black women do this to each other all the time and I can't stand it. Remember when Gold medalist, Gabby Douglas was put under the radar during the 2012 Olympics for something as stupid and irrelevant as her hair? Can you guess who the first person was to criticize her? Her own people. No other race mentioned her hair but her own. Not only did she have to deal opinions and criticisms from white people, but she also had to endure talk and humiliation from the black community. The real problem was that people saw her achieving so much success that they became jealous and proceeded to find anything wrong with her, even if they had to make something up.

        The second crab was fearful, but didn't know how to express that, so she became angry and hateful towards the others. We as black women need to learn how to be comfortable with being vulnerable. Whether it's with our sister, brothers, cousins, friends, lovers, etc. We don't like to be vulnerable and show emotion because we have a fear of being judged. This is ironic because women are naturally emotional beings. When black women look at each other, they also see what the other can become. If that makes sense. We fear the success of the other because it means we will be left behind, or there will be nothing left for us. This fear turns into hatred and dislike for the other.

        The third crab resented the others because they wouldn't attend to her needs first. Resentment is having bitter feelings for another person because you feel like they did you wrong. There are many reasons why black women are bitter towards each other. It could be because one is at a higher level than the other at work, one has a better education than the other, etc. It could even have something to do with misplaced emotions. We may be angry for a number of other reasons, but decide for some reason to direct it towards each other. When you see black women arguing with each other, accompanied with the 'neck rolling', and 'finger pointing', it is the result of deep-seated  bitter feelings each woman has for the other.

       I was compelled to touch on this topic because I can't stand seeing black women treat each other like trash, when in reality no on else understands us like we do. No one else in the world knows what it's like to be a black woman in America, but a black woman. We hold each other back and push each other down, when we need to lift each other up. If one of us makes it, we need to make it a priority to pull the rest out of the gutter. We walk past each other like we're strangers, even though we look just alike. This has to stop NOW, or we'll end up like the crabs in the story.

What is the Downfall of a Black Woman? (Part 1)

        To be back in this world is hard enough, especially in America. We have to deal with stereotypes, misconceptions, racism, disease, colorism, etc., the list goes on. Black men sometimes get it twice as hard, but since I'm a back woman, I'm going to speak for my sisters today. This post will be about the downfall of a modern black woman in America. I know many of you are expecting me to say things like the government, the system, or even black men themselves. The truth is, it's none if that. The downfall of a black woman today, is a black woman. Don't worry, I'll explain.

        There was a fisherman named Sam, who loved to catch, cook, and eat crabs. One day he went down to the dock and caught three fresh crabs. He was so happy, he rushed back home to prepare his dinner. He sat the crabs in a barrel, filled a pot with water, and immediately began to chop up fresh vegetables. Little did he know that these were special crabs. They could talk and at the moment, they were planning on how to escape. The first crab insisted she should be the first to leave because she was the smartest. The second crab said she should leave first because she was the prettiest. The third crab said she should leave first because she was popular and if she died, more people would miss her. This was a problem because each one needed the others in order to escape. The first crab was secretly jealous of the third crab for being a lot popular than she was, so instead she began to criticize the way she looked. The second crab feared greatly that she wouldn't make it out, but instead of letting the others know, she told them how much she hated them, and everything around her. The third crab was all about looks and popularity and resented the others for not helping her out first. They all began to scramble for the top at the same time. Ignoring the fact that neither one would get out. As soon as one got close, another would pull her down because she feared that meant certain death for herself... Sam the fisherman noticed the scuffle between the crabs and immediately became amused. He added the vegetables, turned up the heat, and within 30-40 minutes, he enjoyed a nice seafood dinner.

        What's the point of the story? Sam the fisherman represents Uncle Sam, aka the U.S., and how they look at this situation as a whole. It amuses and entertains the government to see us fight each other. When I say the government, I mean the system as a whole. I mean the people in charge who make it hard for us to be black in America. The three crabs represent the three reasons why black women make it so hard for other black women. When the crabs were fighting to get out of the pot, and pulling each other down, it represented how black women continue to hold each other back, because they fear they will be left behind. I see this all time, and unless we do something about it, we will end up like the crabs in the pot. Devoured by the system that is designed to separate and make us fail.

Take a look at part 2, where I go into depth about the three specific reasons.

Monday, September 9, 2013

Sheryl Underwood

        For those of you who don't watch daytime television, Sheryl Underwood is one of the hosts of The Talk. She recently made headlines about a week ago when a re-run episode of the show aired. On the episode, the ladies were discussing how model/actress Heidi Klum cuts off pieces of her biracial child's hair and saves them for her art. Ms. Underwood proceeded to make comments about how black hair is "nappy" and "nasty". When one of her white co-hosts admitted to keeping pieces of her child's hair, Ms. Underwood commented by saying, "Which is probably some beautiful, long, silky stuff." 

        Ms. Underwood claims she was just making a joke out of the situation, and maybe she was just joking and accidentally said the wrong things, but it seems to me like her true feelings came out. They say when people are joking, half of what comes out is true. I think what really happened is Sheryl's true, deep-seated feelings about black hair in general came out, and people weren't ready to hear it. She said it in a way that people may take it as a joke, but myself, and many others can see past it. Check out a clip of the video here:

        She recently called into the Steve Harvey Morning Show to apologize to those offended by what she said.

        We're all human, and we all make mistakes, I just hope this doesn't happen again. For me, it was another reminder of how we as black people become our own worst enemies when we put ourselves down like this. I feel sorry for all the black women who feel this way. I hope to one day start a movement to change this, and improve generations to come. GOD BLESS.